Public transit be like your bus is due …..now! ……..now! …..any second now…….okay now! Just kidding uhh…………..now! Okay itll be 17 minutes ☺️ hope that helps. Aw shit we sent the invisible bus again
normalize being in your 20’s without a drivers license. normalize being in your 60’s without a drivers license. normalize never ever getting your license. death to automobiles peace and love on planet earth
mommy issues are infinitely more interesting than daddy issues cause daddy issues are always just obvious he’s a supervillain while mother daughter relationships are extremely complicated and nuanced and oftentimes you’ve gotta bring grandma in too for the full picture
Amazing how every guide on interacting with police, including ones that are explicitly pro-cop, are indistinguishable from guides on how to avoid being attacked by a wild animal.
Don’t make any sudden movements, avoid eye contact, stay calm or you WILL die. Wait, what do you mean this is advice for interacting with a human being and not a hungry bear?
“Keep your hands on the steering wheel and don’t have anything in them, a police officer might mistake a cellphone for a weapon.” Okay, should I also hold my hand out for him to sniff when he approaches so that he knows I’m not a threat?
Don’t worry officer, I’m not reaching into my glove compartment for a gun, I’m grabbing the bag of beggin’ strips in hopes that your power trip and homicidal impulses will be appeased with a little treat :3
We have GOT to stop being assholes to people with receding and balding hairlines. There’s not a single person that it can’t affect. It affects trans men, particularly on hormones, it affects trans women, particularly those not on hormones, it affects people with endocrine issues, something that’s becoming more prevalent and common, and it can affect people without a particular cause, including cis women. It’s a normal part of being human and we NEED to stop dehumanizing and humiliating ppl for it
My bf started losing his hair in his early 20s and the effect it’s had on him is devastating.
He’s an actor and he was dropped by his agent after he stopped hiding his hair loss. The roles he was cast in narrowed and shifted from more heroic characters to villains, and eventually he became so miserable about it that he stopped going to auditions altogether.
He used to enjoy dyeing his hair bright colours, and he lost that means of self expression. It alienated him from his own appearance, which knocked him back in coming out and exploring his queerness. The way he talks about it often feels dysmorphic. He says shaving makes him feel like he’s “rotting” - like he’s “scraping the mold off [his] head”.
I’ve seen drunk people and teenagers yell at him in the street and mock his baldness. I’ve seen people come up to him and slap his head or touch it without asking for permission. I’ve witnessed this behaviour from other trans people and women who I know would absolutely kick off if he took such a degrading or entitled attitude towards a part of their body, but seem to think it’s OK to do it to him.
Since going bald people perceive him as more masculine. He feels people are more suspicious of him. Women are less likely to approach him. Folks are quicker to put him in a box or misread his behaviour as aggressive or threatening, when the reality is that he’s neurodivergent and can’t conform to rigid social norms.
Baldness is a heavily gendered characteristic. If someone is conventionally masculine enough and/or is protected by other intersecting powers and privileges (eg wealth) then baldness can reinforce their maleness and the harm to their social standing is minimised. But if their performance of maleness is complicated by something like queerness or disability, it creates a dissonance. They have what is perceived as a hypermasculine trait standing in sharp contrast with their refusal/failure to perform normative, idealised masculinity.
And that’s how baldness is typically read - as failure. Especially when it exists outside of wealthy, successful, heterosexual masculinity but tbh even there too - just look at all the jokes about Jeff Bezos’ baldness or Elon Musk getting hair plugs. It’s similar to insulting Trump over his weight. Like yeah fuck those guys but all you’re really doing is revealing to the fat and bald people in your life that you think their bodies are deserving of mockery.
And God help you if you’re a bald woman. All women with receding hairlines are at a huge risk from transmisogyny.
Sorry for the essay. Baldness is absolutely a body neutrality issue. It’s an ageism issue, and a trans issue, and I WISH there was a broader recognition of this.
It’s July the 4th, thought I’d whip up something for my American followers, alongside a tribute to the paleontological contributions of the United States, though in Hawaii’s case, it’s also a case of just how human activity can make “modern” critters follow the path of the dead.
